Tired of complicating things yet?

I have found in my life and in my work that we tend to over complicate stressful situations. This is why I often challenge my clients to take the direct approach when it comes to problems in the family. I had an example just this morning of over complicating a situation. My client over-indulged and then had a surprise visit from her daughter and son-in-law. They all got into a discussion about religion, which often does not go well since they have different beliefs. When she got up this morning her husband seemed to be silent and upset with her. I encouraged her to talk with him directly and find out what happened, if anything. She was nervous about it because it is a new behavior and her husband is going into surgery for his knee today. My client put off talking with her husband until after the surgery. She decided to apologize to her daughter (not knowing if she did anything wrong). Her daughter respond via text that there was nothing to apologize for, they had all a perfectly nice conversation. My client experienced a lot of unneccessary stress by not gettig informed and over complicating things in her mind. If you're not sure, ask, avoid making up stories in your head that are upsetting and life will go more smoothly.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
greta@coachingyourdreams.com
www.CoachingYourDreams.com

What the Dali Lama says about you!

The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity answered, "Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived." Enough said!

Need some coaching on how to live in the present? Call Greta (404) 259-1335 or email greta@CoachingYourDreams.com.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CLPC

(404) 259-1335

www.CoachingYourDreams.com

greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Stessless living!

Life is full of stress.  However, with the right balance of busy, focused, and relaxed, we can reach an optimum stress level that even feels good! It is possible to live feeling stressless even when facing big transitions.  Living stressless looks like living at your optimum stress level. How do we find our optimum stress level? By having simple and easy steps to accomplish. Why complicate it with specific goals and thoughts that can lead to stress? The first goal of each day should be "I am going to feel good today!" Simple goals are best when faced with big transitions. By having the idea in your head that your main goal is to feel good, you increase the likelihood that you will take care of yourself, which is the most important thing and what we are most likely to forget.

If you have big stressors or dreams, focus only on the next step to get yourself started. Small steps are the only way we make the big steps happen. Make sure you are are having some fun and taking care of yourself. If you want help finding out how to live stressless give me a call or email.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Let compassion break the Rules!

Back before we knew that animals can benefit humans and their healing, a young nurse let her compassion for a patient push her to break the rules. Her patient was dieing everyone agreed. The doctors and nurses on the floor all knew this was it the patient's heart was not strong enough to sustain her life for much longer. One kind nurse spoke with the woman's "best" friend who admitted she really was not that close to the patient that in reality her closest friends were her dogs. The patient had not seen her two dogs since her heart attach about two weeks before. Sandy the nurse decide the woman should get to see her dogs one last time. Sandy spoke to the night staff and got their agreement and early in the morning she brought the woman's two dogs to her, and after days of being in and out of awarness the woman woke up and began petting the dogs and smiling. It was a good visit. With in two weeks she walked out of the hospital with heart pumping strong. The power of love no matter what form in takes is healing.
Remember those people and beings you love this holiday season, we never know when we need their kindness and love.


Greta Jager, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

How to move through Uncomfortable Emotions faster!

Call them what you want: negative emotions, uncomfortable emotions, emotions that suck, and whatever else you want to say about them. Unless we have become self actualized, we still have them. Our ability to handle negative emotions varies greatly and is often impacted by our environment i.e. not sleeping well, feeling grief or a sucky job. It is easy to want to get rid of the emotion or the situation so you can feel better. In some cases we want to understand why we are feeling bad and the "why" is not readily apparent.
What to do when good emotions go bad! Stop asking "why" for starters. This question can easily be answered with the wrong information. An example is when someone is uncomfortable about their financial situation but it is easier to feel like they are anxious about whether their new boyfriend/girlfriend really likes them. Let go of the need to know why and take a deep breath and do step number two. Step number two is allowing the feeling without fighting. Yes, I mean just experience the emotion no questions asked. If you want to cry, then cry; if you feel anxious, then feel anxious. Step three, acknowledge that these feeling are temporary!
Any of these steps can help but the combination is best. If you want to learn how to let negative emotions pass, try it out and see what happens. If you are struggling with on going challenging emotions you may be better off with more support such as through a life coach or therapist. Give me a call if you would like more information about life coaching or therapy at (404) 259-1335.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
www.CoachingYourDreams.com

What to do when you are dealing with a top Ten Stressor!

If you read my blog you already know the first step to manage a big stressor(i.e. moving, divorce, grief) please take care of yourself as well, not last. This is a classic mistake many people make taking care of everyone else first, which of course puts us last. Yes, please make the important people in your life as comfortable as you can and also make yourself as comfortable as possible. This can look like a deep breath or two, maybe a hot bath, dinner out with the girls, football out with the boys, whatever will help you laugh, cry, smile, feel comfortable and gives you an opportunity to take a break from the crisis.
Step two, do what you can to experience your emotions whether they are sad, mad, frustrated, upset, etc. Let them come out when you feel them. When we censor our emotions under stress they have a tendency to come out as anger towards those closest to us. 
Step three, don't spend time questioning yourself. Make the best decision you can considering the circumstances and then go with it. This is not the time to think decisions are good or bad; they are just good, better and best.
Step four remind yourself that the situation or emotion is temporary and you will get through it.
Step five call a therapist or life coach if none of this works.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
www.CoachingYourDreams.com

How the River Runs!

I was in a whimsical mood the other day and I envisioned that I am a river moving powerfully and inevitably towards a waterfall. Once at the waterfall I crash, bubble and fall forward scattering to droplets, mists and streams on my way down. Again I become a river but somehow new and refreshed. Change is turbulent and scatters us, inevitably leading us back to who we are, better, calmer and changed. Be a river allow the change to happen, you will be "you", powerfully and fully!

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

How do you Recharge!

 I felt like having an evening to myself, so I am sitting in the
Sundial bar at the
Westin in Atlanta, Georgia.
I was pleasantly surprised to see a live and good jazz band. It is moments like these that help me stay energized for my life and business.
We have all heard of introverts and extroverts but the belief is that introvert means not very social. Contrary to popular thought introvert means you recharge on your own not with a group. Many introverts are very social I am example, and some introverts are not social. It is good to know whether you are an extrovert or an introvert so you know how you recharge. Get to know yourself and how you get charged so you can stay happy and energized.
If you have trouble recharging and wants some help call Greta (404) 259-1335

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@coachingyourdreams.com

Life advice from a successful businessman

So... I was sitting in carabou coffee shop waiting until traffic eased, when an older gentleman sitting across from me struck up a conversation. After a few minutes I was starting to feel the urge to break eye contact so I could get back to work. I was just about to look away when I stopped myself and I thought "you know I may learn something chatting with this gentleman" and I took a breath sat back and listened.

Here is a taste of the gems he shared with me:
1. Choose something you love to do for your work.
2. Make sure you can make money at it.
3. Become the best in the business at it.
4. It is best to have a balance in politics things go the most wrong when we swing too much one way or the other.
5. There are jobs available Americans don't have the right training to get them I.e. The trades. (plumbing etc.)

This is just a taste of what we can hear from a stranger if we stop to listen. The next time somebody wants a chat and you feel an urge to look away don't. Then sit back and enjoy their stories whatever they maybe about.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
Greta@coachingyourdreams.com

Chaos to Connection!

I find it fascinating that over and over again things fall apart and then a couple days, a couple weeks, a couple of months, or a couple of years go by and well everything has worked out just fine. Isn't it curious how if we let it, even the biggest problems get solved over time they just feel overwhelming in the moment. It is probably not just human nature but also training that gives us the mind set that chaos is bad. There is nothing inherently bad about chaos it is just a signifier that what we thought would not change is going to despite our wishes.
We all know we can count on change we don't know where or when but it is coming. This sounds awkward and stressful and well it does not have to be either. If we count on change in our selves and know that change/chaos will happen we can practice being accepting of change; learning to roll with it, instead of fighting it. When we roll with chaos we feel more connected and less discombobulated by our environment. So..., take a deep breath and roll with the wave of chaos. "Enjoy"

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Check in or check out, It’s a life choice!

Have you seen the movie "Shawshank Redemption"? It is one of my top ten favorite movies. I love the scene in the movie when Andy says to Red " I guess it comes down to two things either get busy living or get busy dying." This is made more profound because they are in prison and Red does not believe he can live outside the walls of the prison anymore stating "I am institutionalized now". 

I know now your thinking not another prison metaphor, yup and here goes. If we get busy dying we are in prison in our own minds, we have given up, and built the walls ourselves. How many people live in fear of making a mistake, or in fear of making someone angry, or in fear of fear? I could go on and on with the different fears people use to check out of life. I say feel the fear and do it anyway. It does not matter if we make a mistake get back up and try again. Edison always said that he did not fail, he stated “We now know a thousand ways not to build a light bulb". 
Have fun and fall down often. Checking in maybe scary but it is a lot more fun than checking out.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC

(404) 259-1335

greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

www.CoachingYourDreams.com

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Summer, distractions and being kind to yourself!

So..., I have let summer distract me from blogging weekly. There was a time when I would have beat myself up with statements that looked a lot like " What is wrong with you.", or "I guess I don't have it in me to be consistent". It has been awhile since I have had conversations like this with myself and it makes me smile to think how silly and cruel I was to myself.

Does that sound like you? I hope not and if it does take this opportunity to learn to be kind to you. We face enough negativity in the world, it is time to stop being your own worst critic. Become your own best friend so your fun to hang out with when your alone! 

If you want help learning to be your own best friend I am giving away free introductory sessions for last part of August and September! Give me a call!

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC

(404) 259-1335

greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

www.CoachingYourDreams.com

blog.CoachingYourDreams.com

Three steps to start your day Flowing right!

Need a little inspiration today, Watch this Video!!

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Goo USA in women's world cup soccer!

Many of my blogger, fb and twitter friends don't know I love to play soccer. I have played since elementary school and I am now in my forties. It helps keep me in shape and you make wonderful friends not just on your team, you also get to know many of the players on the other teams. This Sunday many of us will be getting together to watch the U.S play Japan. This is cool for a couple of reason's one the U.S. has not been in the finals of the women's world cup since 1999 and the biggest reason is Japan. Holly molly they just had a devastating year and are still recovering. Nobody expected them to even make it to the semi-finals including them. They were focused on the Olympics.
Japan is playing stellar soccer right now, they are in flow with each other and it is showing. They were intense but joyful at the same time. This is a balance that many athletes have achieved before and when you are in it you feel invincible whether you win or lose! If you have experienced passion for work or someone and you hit that balance, ever so briefly of intense passion and joy; you also know what I am talking about.
I do want the U.S. to win but I still think it is wonderful that Japan is in the finals and their country is excited for them as well. The U.S. has a lot of passion and a serious desire to win, they will fight until the end. We will see if that will beat Japan's current synergy.
Want to know how to find and keep this kind of balance call Greta (404) 259-1335.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

How to pleasure yourself mentally!

A friend gave me this title it is pretty eye catching isn't? I decide to use it because we all need to learn how too make our selves happy, in my opinion! Isn't it exhausting to constantly beat yourself up? Many people are what I call sophisticated negative thinkers; they are so good at it they don't even know they are doing it!
Did you know that not accepting a compliment is a form of negating yourself? The key to happiness is in you, it is time to get out of the way. The fastest way to change your life is to change how you think. It is ease to learn how to pleasure yourself mentally the hard part is putting it into practice consistently. First you must get better at catching yourself at bashing yourself or others. Then you change the thought to something more positive or neutral. Try one day and see how it feels
Learn how to control your thinking and love yourself mentally while coaching with me. Become your very own love machine without guilt. Sounds like fun right? And yes it is possible! Want to know how...give me a call!
Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Tired of being disappointed by life?

It is not hard to be disappointed with life since so many friends and family members around us have given up on their dreams, their passions we just follow their lead. There are plenty of people that will agree with us that life is disappointing, but it you are tired of being disappointed then you are tired of hearing it. I have a client who recently got tired of disappointing her mother. After a long discussion it became clear that she felt responible for her mothers happiness and was constantly either advising her or making decisions for her mother. She realized to have an adult relationship with her mother she had to change her expectations as in stop having them. She began to allow her mother to make her own decision and only supported her when asked to. She is no longer disappointed in how her mother acts around her and her mother is no longer acting disappointed.
Let me break it down for you:
1. Change your expectations (let go of your expectations)
2. Change your own behavior to reflect either less expectation or no expectations around other peoples behaviors.
3. Things and people improve when we stop concentrating on how they have failed us.

This is only a beginning. When we work together you will learn how to love life again, you will learn to take risks again and grab on to life, let’s get started!

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

How Sick Of Fear Are You?

Are you exhausted from living in fear? It impacts our sleep, our decisions, and

our relationships. The crazy thing is fear is something we have made up in our own minds most of the time. It is the stories we tell our selves. Let me give you an example I have a client who is working hard on this exact thing, because of her tendency to shut friends out after uncomfortable interaction with them. About a month ago one of her friends said something that came across as critical to my client but when she repeated it to me I could see many different ways to interpret the statement. After discussing several versions she acknowledge that without asking she actually did not know if her friend intended it the way she took it. Jumping to conclusions is easy and we think it protects us but in the end all it does is isolate us and make us feel as though we can not trust anyone. I always encourage my clients to pick the story that leaves them feeling good instead of bad or stand up and ask what the person meant instead of assuming.

Fear of loosing our job, getting a new job, starting a new relationship, telling our partners exactly how we feel and on and on and on, we could list more fears but the result is the same it stops us from taking risks. Stop telling your self the negative stories and start telling your self the good stories so you step into your future now. Coaching can be a solution to overcoming your fears. When we work together you will learn to move through your fear and successfully accomplish the goals you have set for yourself!

Remember Tag your it?

On my trip to Oregon to visit my sister and her family I watched her dogs play their version of tag. Riley and Tucker would chase each other, play fight and dodge each other until the smaller dog Riley needed a break. Riley would run to the same tree over and over again and when she did Tucker would run over and wait for Riley to run away from the tree. He never followed her, he would just wait for when she was ready to play again. The tree was "base" if you played tag you remember sometimes playing with a safe base well Riley has a safe tree.
This reminded me that we all need a place we feel safe and comfortable taking a break from everything going on around us. If you don't have a safe place in your house it is time to make one. There are different place you can do this for many women this can be the bathroom, for many men it is their man cave. Whatever the name and no matter what the size make sure you have somewhere to go that you feel good about.

Homework: Take the que from Riley and spend sometime today enjoying quiet time in your safe place!

Want to give Life Coaching a try give me a call (404) 259-1335!

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC

(404) 259-1335
http://www.coachingyourdreams.com/
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Always waiting for the weekend?

Why live for the weekend? I know I have been stuck in this thought process many times, so easy to slip into the idea that the only fun we have is on the weekend. We even have a funny name for Wednesday day, "Hump day", as if we are just waiting for Friday. I know when we have a job sometimes it feels as though Monday through Friday is drudgery.   It mess with our mind to think only two days out the week are any fun and well it is not true. We have a choice to make if M-F sucks we can find a new job that we love or start our own business or change our mind about the job we are in right now. I am suggesting it is up to us and thank goodness because if our bad week was someone else's responsibility then we would never have a chance to be truly Happy. I suggest making a decision to change because a life on the fence unhappy is no fun.
I was talking with a client recently who decided to give up being a realestate agent. I started the conversation because she was clearly unhappy as an agent but on the fence about what to do about it, she did not want to appear to have failed. I asked her to remember what it was like to really want that shiny piece of candy as a child, to crave it, and then when you finally get it you don't like it. The candy looked good on the outside but the inside was not what you wanted and this is what realestate is to her, it just looked good on the outside so "put down the candy" and "try something else".

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Resistance and Flow

OK, so I decided not to drop the subject. I thought it might help if I gave a concrete example of resistance to ideas. I have a client she is a chiropractor with a successful business, and still growing. Recently her Yoga person chose to not renew her contract for the room she was renting this put an extra financial burden on my client. Please note that at this point she can afford to cover the cost. The funny part is she has never had full responsibility before so she is stressed out and all of the sudden clients start canceling appointments. This has brought her to a place where now she is getting stressed about money and questioning her self and her abilities as a business owner. She was confident last month and one change in her business and boom she is no longer a competent business owner. We came up with a plan to move her forward and her it is: please remember I believe in simple:

1. 3-4 Deep breaths
2. Observe her thinking
3. Don't judge her negative thoughts just notice
4. Gently bring her thoughts to the business success's and where she wants to build her business
5. Repeat as necessary

We ended the meeting with additional homework that I won't get into, right now. It is more fun to be in flow than it is to resist. If life throws more responsibility at you consider it a compliment. I received an email later that day about how she changed her attitude and energy and got two new clients and someone called to possibly rent the room.  If you want help with this process beyond the above example call me at (404) 259-1335.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Resistance

Recently I have received several clients that are resistant to change the biggest thing blocking their path. What is our biggest fear that we will try to truly live and fail or that we will true live and everything will change? I think both, so we don't change or we start and immediately talk ourselves out of it. This big scary monster only goes away when we face it and push through it, otherwise slowly over time fear runs our life more than we do. I have found that when fear runs our lives we stop challenging ourselves and well guess what "the less you do, the less you do". When we are resistant we become masters at making excuses for why we don't move forward in our lives. It is ok if you don't want to change, you don't have to! That is great, right? Here is the reason to not have that attitude eventually life kicks us in the fanny and then we are forced to change. This can be very unpleasant for anyone resistant to change! Learning to go with the flow of life and master change is a life long lesson. If you would rather learn to challenge yourself and live fearlessly, try this!

The next time you feel in your gut that you are scared to try something new (i.e. a new behavior, look, business, class, employment, friend) go for it and see what happens!

Want some help with overcoming your resistance call Greta (404) 259-1335


Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Dare to be happy!

Have you noticed that happiness can be fleeting at best. It took me a long time to figure out that if I kept basing my happiness on doing things I would continue to be on the roller coaster ride, happy I accomplished my goal and disappointed the good feeling didn't last. Once I figured out this wouldn't make me happy I was lost for several years (or more) wondering what would. Then it hit me sustained happiness had to be from being; not doing, wow what a relief now I know. Now what?
First I learned to breathe and then I learned to control my mind gently moving myself from self bashing and negative thoughts to self encouragement, and self love. I became a better friend, partner, sister, daughter, and life coach. I dared to be happy and it impacted every aspect of my life. I won't tell you I am 24/7 happy but I will tell you I am 80-90% of the time. I know I have not given you the full process and well I won't in this one blog post but I will tell you if you keep after the idea of happiness and make it something you build from the inside out you will get their someday!

Homework: Try smiling for a good sixty seconds the next time you are in a bad mood and then see how you feel?

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Coming out of the wreckage

My neighbor for the last four years has recently gotten divorced and lost his house to foreclosure. I have been chatting with him on and off for the last two months encouraging him to see the challenge from a new perspective. I am sure you will be shocked to know that he didn't listen to me. Of course sticking my nose in my neighbors business I should know better, but I saw him in pain and was hopeful I could speed his recovery. Resilience is important for good mental health. When we become so focused on our pain all we can talk about is; "this is going wrong", "that is going wrong" and "woes is me life just isn't going my way", we stop being flexible. Looking at life from this perspective leads to a dark place full of pointy rocks that you constantly step or fall on. Lots to complain about but nothing to live for! I have been here and done that and it is no fun, trust me. Learning to roll with life has so many gifts I can't even list them all here, so just to name a few big ones happiness, joy, better relationships, and happy people want to hang out with happy people.

Do you like the idea of resilience? Challenge yourself to be more flexible about something/someone you feel negatively about and see how it feels. Do you feel better or worse not feeling negatively towards ...?

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335

I always forget I am the shortest person in the room! Thanks, Cindy you are an awesome photographer

I attended a MetroAtlanta Chamber of Commerce meeting last night and Cindy Brown http://cbrownphoto.com/blog/?p=1460  took my picture. I love it, I forget how short I am it is normal for me to look up, I don't evaluate it. What are you doing in your life that is so normal you don't even know you are doing it? Take this opportunity to evaluate behaviors and relationship patterns. I know I can't change looking up and it stopped bothering me years ago. We all can have healthier behaviors and better relationships, so ask yourself what might I do differently today that improve my life? Then try it and see, I promise the view is better when you risk making your life better.
Questions call Greta (404) 259-1335.

I looked in the mirror today, and I am going gray!

Today I saw a lot of gray hairs "yes" I know I am getting older and this is going to be come more frequent. How can we age gracefully and I don't mean physical appearance? When I look at the people aging gracefully in my life here is what I learned and from whom:
1. Keep you mind active- Mom
2. Stretch everyday- Coco the cat
3. Take naps- Zazu the dog
4. Keep a positive attitude- Mom again
5. Keep your loved ones close- Mother in-law
6. Do what you love- Joyce Rennolds

Hope these help you as much as they help me. I would love to read your comments, tell me what you think of aging and how to do it gracefully?

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLCC
(404) 259-1335
Are you in your mid-life crisis give me a call?
I am faster than a therapist and cheaper than a face lift!

Look who's top dog now!

I love to observe life and how different situations play out. We have three dogs in the house. One dog "Zazu" the mut in the house is the top dog hands down, the other two until recently have been vying for second place for over a year. The Jack Russel "Tito" l had an advantage over the Maltese/poodle "Lulu" with age and muscle. Recently "Tito" decided it would be a good idea to pee in my bedroom, he got in trouble and was a nervous nelly for around two days. This dramatically changed the dog order in the house "Lulu" is now firmly second in command. Lulu decides if "Tito" is allowed on the bed or in a lap. This situation may not last but it is interesting to watch and wonder, who is top dog in my house? If your wondering what I mean let me explain, in your mind do you make your own decision or have you had situations like "Tito" and now all the negative and critical voices in your mind control your decisions instead of you.

Not in command of your own mind or decisions call (404) 29-1335 and ask for Greta

Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLCC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

"Get addicted, Become a Lifeaholic"

"I know, I can hear it already "Get addicted" what's wrong with you? I believe, actually I know that we are all prone to habits and if you can agree with me on that point you will like my theory. Now habits can be good or bad in fact many of us are really good at our bad habits. If you are good at negative thinking as an example and lets say you could even call yourself an expert negative thinker, does it not follow that you could become the opposite an expert positive thinker? Of course you must be invested in becoming a positive thinker and then you must practice, practice and practice some more but over time you would become an expert! This is why I know that we can all "Get Addicted to Life" and become a lifeaholic. This is a commitment and takes practice but once you know how to get addicted you won't want to turn back. I have a seminar built around this concept if you would like more information call (404) 259-1335 and become a lifeaholic.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CLPC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

The Wave!! How to flow with life!

When I was in my mid-twenties I was a training in Southern California I had paid thousands to go to this training as had several hundred other people. I knew about six people and we all in varying degrees of financial distress at the time. We all went to the beach together one afternoon to go swimming. All but one of us immediately jumped in the water and swam past the break. One of my friends kept getting bashed by the waves over and over again ending covered in sand and making no progress. After witnessing this for a short time I swam back in and said "The waves are like life; we can do three things get bashed by every wave that comes to our shores or we can learn to dive under/over the wave or we can flow with the wave". She swam out and dove under the wave. We had a wonderful time that afternoon playing in the water. I have thought of this many times over the years when I was letting life bash me instead of flowing with it. We all have moments like my friends, what is important is to stand back up and try again only maybe more in flow with life and less bashing! Summers coming lets go swimming.

Looking for a life coach call Greta (404) 259-1335

Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLCC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
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I love my tractor except when it breaks!!

I realize this may not make sense but I like to do yard work when I get stuck with my writing particularly when the weather is beautiful like today. I decided to mow the lawn I have a rather large front yard somewhere around half an acre. While this does not compare to my brothers several acres, his is flat and my yard is a hill. I had almost finished with the big hill part of the yard and I was about 5 feet from the top when I heard it put..,put..,put.., put (in case your not sure the dots are to signify the pause between puts) and then the tractor died. For those of you that don't know me well I am a small woman and although I am an athlete I am still small. Have you ever tried to push a tractor mower up hell, I mean hill, by yourself? I felt good when I arrived at the top and took a moment to catch my breath. It is times like this that I am reminded about how good it feels to accomplish challenging tasks and when I tackle a task without hesitation I get to the top much faster. So go out there and tackle a hill (goal) no hesitation.

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Dogs and yards what do they have in common!

Not much really I just have to clean up after both. I find it funny that even after four years I am  still am amazed at how much raking it takes to manage the half acre in the back. Typically I am a cat person, but I live with a dog person, need I say more. Ok, I will, I am out of my element walking around the yard and picking up "stuff" (yes, poo). I have been doing this for about six and a half years now only triple the poo since way back when. Some of you may ask what does this have to do with anything? Let's see how often do we pick up other peoples bad attitudes and hold onto it, letting other peoples stuff interrupt our day, our lives. Just like I throw out the leaves and crap from the yard, we must learn to throw out negative energy. Allowing somebody else's bad day to bubble over into our day and attitude means we are not running our own show. It your show, don't let anyone mess with it!

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Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLCC
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Self sabatoge and what to do about it!

In my experience in life and as a coach/therapist it is rare that someone will start a new behavior and make it a permanent behavior immediately. I have clients tell me all the time that they were doing good at changing a behavior i.e. eating healthy and then all of the sudden something happened (stressful) and they are eating crap again. This is much more common than someone who can change a behavior and boom it is changed. So I have to ask why be so hard on yourself (this is the self sabotage piece)? Going back to old habits temporarily is more normal than not, so relax you are still good. The most important point to remember when you find you are back to old habits is to think, this is temporary let me get back to the new behavior now.
Here is what I do:
1. I notice I have stopped working out
2. I don't judge myself for stopping, I just notice (this was the hardest to practice initially)
3. I make a plan immediatly to start with small step getting back into working out.
4. I usually start with some Yoga stretches and walking
5. If I can't do my plan immediately I make sure to start it within a day or two and easy back into working out.
6. As with most of my plans still struggling getting back to the new behavior go back to step one and repeat until you are back in the groove.

The best plans keep it simple!

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Sitting in Silence!

Many of the clients I work with have trouble sitting in silence and find that trying brings intense anxiety. The funny thing is the problem and the fix are the same thing. Learning to sit in silence and just be with your self is one of the best ways to learn to let go of anxiety altogether. To be quiet we must slow down our breath and either empty our minds or control our thought process. It is the perfect practice for controlling anxiety. If you have trouble be silent and hanging with yourself try to practice a little at a time i.e. try one minute at first and then increase the time once you are no longer anxious during the one minute of silence. Do this until you can sit with yourself for as long as you want. This is a freeing exercise and calming. Try it out.

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Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
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My First case of writers block

I have had what I call writers block off and on for about two and half weeks only managing to write two or three of what I would call decent blogs. Now, some of you are probably thinking, Greta you do know your grammar is average? Yes, I do know that, it is the content that matters the most, right? I have digressed I was talking about writers block mine to be exact, so I can write lots of words none of it feels right. I have been feeling in-congruent with the topics I choose and then what I actually put on the page is worse. On Monday I thought maybe I should write about my writers block and I decided, no. I have been in a holding pattern since until I opened up a book and read a line I have heard many times but today it felt fresh and new. Do you want to know the line? Here it is: You want to inspire, you want to be in spirit. That is it, that is my problem I have not been in spirit, wow what a relief. Ok, so now to get in spirit. I took a deep breath and I stopped trying to write what I thought people might want to read and began to write in the moment, In Spirit. It is a much more peaceful and comfortable place. If you are feeling blocked take a deep breath, let go of what anyone else might think of you or what you do and just be in the moment, be you.

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Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
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Chaos and coffee

For years now I have wanted to do a training called chaos and coffee! I don't know why and well it really doesn't matter why, I suppose. I like the title and it reminds me there is a lot of chaos in the world but that doesn't have to stop me from taking a break. If your not a coffee drinker you probably think I am a little batty since caffeine ramps us up. Replace coffee with you favorite drink and you know what I mean.
It is easy to be distracted by all the chaos in the world. It is even easy to start to believe that world is going to hell when you listen to the news. I was talking with my hairdresser today and she was telling me how back in December she decide to get more organized and that it has made all the difference in how peaceful she feels inside meaning no more anxiety. What was interesting to me is after discussing it for awhile what came out was she start to spend some quiet time just with herself and listening to what she needed and bam she got her answer. It is hard to have peace when all we see is chaos, take a break from the chaos sit with yourself. See what answers come to you, you may be surprised!

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Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
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Communication Calamities continued

I would love to hear your stories of communication calamities please post some, some of the funniest and most stressful moments come from communication confusion What's your story?
While I have been sitting here at the library three young boys came in I believe there age range was about six to eight years of age. They all were staring at the gas fire place and youngest asked the oldest "How come the woods not burning John", there was no response from his brother so he said it a little louder again no response. This went on for two more rounds the younger brother getting louder each time until at last he got an answer. Some patterns start out so young we aren't even aware of them, when you don't feel heard, how do you respond?

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Communication calamities and such!

We all know that communication is difficult at best and yet we still act as if we understand each other 100%. It is an accepted allusion. I suppose acknowledging this in every conversation would just be silly but not acknowledging it creates communication calamity. How many arguments start because one person thinks they know what the other person is saying and then they get offended. If we take the time to hear people out we might find they don't mean what we assume. Case in point I have a couple that I work with and they constantly misinterpret what the other person means or grab on to just part of what they mean as in the most hurtful part. This leads them to conflict and calamity:
How to avoid Calamity:
1. Assume nothing.
2. If you assume anything assume the other person is innocent and not attacking you or your ideas.
3. Listen to them with your heart and mind!
4. Check to see if you heard them right.
5. Practice, Practice and practice again!!!
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Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
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Random acts of silliness!

I believe in Random acts of silliness and I know they are important to my mental health. I have an example, so... I was hanging with my mother about three weeks ago and we were standing in her kitchen chatting. I remember clearly that I was standing in front of the sink and my mother asks in an Irish accents "so, how are you darlin". Now you may not think this is strange since you probably don't know my mom, but she is from here (U.S.A) and she can't do an accent on purpose to save her life and I'm not kidding. Anyway continuing the story I paused and replied in kind (Irish accent and all) "Well I'm doin fine mother, and how are youuu?" She laughed and then I asked her in an Irish accent "since when have you been talkin with an Irish accent mum?" It was total silliness, we laughed and have laughed about it several times since then. Not as funny in the re-telling I know but the point is more salient in a story. In case you missed the point: be silly, have fun, don't take life or your self to serious, and by all mean if your mom breaks into an accent for no apparent reason run with it!

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Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
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