Inspirational - The Pursuit of Happyness

Feel the fear and do it anyway

Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.

Henry Ford

When did we get afraid to fail? Why do we often name people who fail losers? What were we thinking when it became common place to not risk, to avoid failure at all costs, and to let our fears make decisions for us. When I was just finishing college a friend suggested I read the book "Feel the fear and do it anyway". I bought the book and read about half of it and then put it down. I may not of finished the book but the idea of facing my fears instead of hiding from them has stuck with me all these years. 

I have had times when I lived in fear of even going to my mail box to face my bills. I have had times when life seemed daunting and overwhelming. I would inevitably always come back to the main concept of the above mentioned book "Feel the fear and do it anyway". This eventually lead to living more fully. I know you are saying that is too easy and I will tell you what I tell my clients "no it is not easy but it is simple, we as humans complicate it." The reality is facing your fears is the fast way to let them go and we often find they are not as scary as we thought.

You maybe wondering how you do that? One way is to what I did to face my bills; I took a deep breath and put one foot in front of the other until I got to the mail box, then I opened it, and then I took a deep breath and I look at my mail. It was not easy and I did swear but it was simple. I have always preferred simple when facing my fears because just doing the next step is simple and easier than trying to accomplish everything at once. So take a deep breath and face your fears.

 

Need help facing your fears give me a call  Greta Jaeger at (404) 259-1335 or contact me at greta@CoachingYourDreams.com. If you email me in the subject line put either question or coaching.

In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt, "You must feel the fear and do it anyway."

Greta

Life-Get Addicted, "Become a Lifeaholic"

This is the title to my seminar. I will be speaking in Alpharetta, GA at Roam Atlanta 6:30pm on July 22nd

Become a Lifeaholic! - Eventbrite

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If there is any addiction to have we should be addicted to LIFE. I realize using the word addiction goes against the beliefs of the times, but just hear me out. In order to survive, and evolve we learned habits that kept us fed, watered, housed and safe. We learned to use our knowledge and experience to create habits that helped us grow stronger and kept our children safe when we had to leave. Without having habits we would have had to relearn survival skills over and over again. That sounds exhausting to me, what about you?

Ok, so habits can and do turn into addictions at times particularly when we are unhappy and choose to avoid are problems instead of face them. This is of course the reason we think of the word addiction in a negative light. I know I can be long wind again bear with me, here is my point. Being addicted to life means you have habits but they don't run you, you run them. It means you have a habit of facing your problems not running from them. You work to have healthy habits and to learn how to be happy from the inside. We have all met people addict to life and their enthusiasm is catching. When we are addicted to life people want to be around us and we know how to live in the moment. Does this sound like the kind of addiction you could live with?

Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLCC
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
(404) 259-1335

Is there a science to getting "Happy"?

Yes, of course there is a science. It is not a pill or a quick fix, however. Lasting happiness takes times and effort just like anything in life worth working towards. We are conditioned to believe setting and achieving goals is the way to get happy. We were mislead, the intention was to help but instead it confused us. Working towards goals can help us with learning to be happy but it is not the answer to sustained "Happiness".

The next question what brings sustained happiness? We all know that money and things is not the answer so what is the answer. I had a mentor one time who loved to say "Money can't buy happiness, but it sure does make it easier." Ok, so I don't buy this either, although I think he really meant if you are not struggling to feed and house yourself it is easier to be happy. He was only partially correct and this could be a long blog if I went in depth, so I am going to keep it short. It can be easier to have a good attitude if we are not struggling for food and water and a dry place to sleep. However, I have met homeless people with amazing attitudes about life and their purpose in life. It is not necessary to always know where our next meal is coming from to have a great attitude about life.

Some of you  have already figured out one of the keys is attitude. Attitude can be trained just like we were trained to talk and walk, we can learn a better attitude. A part of having a great attitude is learning to train our perception as well instead of letting our brain have control; we must control our brain, our thoughts. These are all parts of the science of sustained "Happiness" and you can see why I say it takes time and training.

If you think that my ideas are wrong be scientific and test them practice having a good attitude one day and a bad attitude the next see which day ends with you feeling good. You can do the same with your perception of things that happen to you. If you want to know more about the science of getting "Happy" contact me at:

Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLCC
(404) 259-1335
greta@coachingyourdreams.com
www.CoachingYourDream.com