Always waiting for the weekend?

Why live for the weekend? I know I have been stuck in this thought process many times, so easy to slip into the idea that the only fun we have is on the weekend. We even have a funny name for Wednesday day, "Hump day", as if we are just waiting for Friday. I know when we have a job sometimes it feels as though Monday through Friday is drudgery.   It mess with our mind to think only two days out the week are any fun and well it is not true. We have a choice to make if M-F sucks we can find a new job that we love or start our own business or change our mind about the job we are in right now. I am suggesting it is up to us and thank goodness because if our bad week was someone else's responsibility then we would never have a chance to be truly Happy. I suggest making a decision to change because a life on the fence unhappy is no fun.
I was talking with a client recently who decided to give up being a realestate agent. I started the conversation because she was clearly unhappy as an agent but on the fence about what to do about it, she did not want to appear to have failed. I asked her to remember what it was like to really want that shiny piece of candy as a child, to crave it, and then when you finally get it you don't like it. The candy looked good on the outside but the inside was not what you wanted and this is what realestate is to her, it just looked good on the outside so "put down the candy" and "try something else".

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Resistance and Flow

OK, so I decided not to drop the subject. I thought it might help if I gave a concrete example of resistance to ideas. I have a client she is a chiropractor with a successful business, and still growing. Recently her Yoga person chose to not renew her contract for the room she was renting this put an extra financial burden on my client. Please note that at this point she can afford to cover the cost. The funny part is she has never had full responsibility before so she is stressed out and all of the sudden clients start canceling appointments. This has brought her to a place where now she is getting stressed about money and questioning her self and her abilities as a business owner. She was confident last month and one change in her business and boom she is no longer a competent business owner. We came up with a plan to move her forward and her it is: please remember I believe in simple:

1. 3-4 Deep breaths
2. Observe her thinking
3. Don't judge her negative thoughts just notice
4. Gently bring her thoughts to the business success's and where she wants to build her business
5. Repeat as necessary

We ended the meeting with additional homework that I won't get into, right now. It is more fun to be in flow than it is to resist. If life throws more responsibility at you consider it a compliment. I received an email later that day about how she changed her attitude and energy and got two new clients and someone called to possibly rent the room.  If you want help with this process beyond the above example call me at (404) 259-1335.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Resistance

Recently I have received several clients that are resistant to change the biggest thing blocking their path. What is our biggest fear that we will try to truly live and fail or that we will true live and everything will change? I think both, so we don't change or we start and immediately talk ourselves out of it. This big scary monster only goes away when we face it and push through it, otherwise slowly over time fear runs our life more than we do. I have found that when fear runs our lives we stop challenging ourselves and well guess what "the less you do, the less you do". When we are resistant we become masters at making excuses for why we don't move forward in our lives. It is ok if you don't want to change, you don't have to! That is great, right? Here is the reason to not have that attitude eventually life kicks us in the fanny and then we are forced to change. This can be very unpleasant for anyone resistant to change! Learning to go with the flow of life and master change is a life long lesson. If you would rather learn to challenge yourself and live fearlessly, try this!

The next time you feel in your gut that you are scared to try something new (i.e. a new behavior, look, business, class, employment, friend) go for it and see what happens!

Want some help with overcoming your resistance call Greta (404) 259-1335


Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com

Dare to be happy!

Have you noticed that happiness can be fleeting at best. It took me a long time to figure out that if I kept basing my happiness on doing things I would continue to be on the roller coaster ride, happy I accomplished my goal and disappointed the good feeling didn't last. Once I figured out this wouldn't make me happy I was lost for several years (or more) wondering what would. Then it hit me sustained happiness had to be from being; not doing, wow what a relief now I know. Now what?
First I learned to breathe and then I learned to control my mind gently moving myself from self bashing and negative thoughts to self encouragement, and self love. I became a better friend, partner, sister, daughter, and life coach. I dared to be happy and it impacted every aspect of my life. I won't tell you I am 24/7 happy but I will tell you I am 80-90% of the time. I know I have not given you the full process and well I won't in this one blog post but I will tell you if you keep after the idea of happiness and make it something you build from the inside out you will get their someday!

Homework: Try smiling for a good sixty seconds the next time you are in a bad mood and then see how you feel?

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com