Coming out of the wreckage

My neighbor for the last four years has recently gotten divorced and lost his house to foreclosure. I have been chatting with him on and off for the last two months encouraging him to see the challenge from a new perspective. I am sure you will be shocked to know that he didn't listen to me. Of course sticking my nose in my neighbors business I should know better, but I saw him in pain and was hopeful I could speed his recovery. Resilience is important for good mental health. When we become so focused on our pain all we can talk about is; "this is going wrong", "that is going wrong" and "woes is me life just isn't going my way", we stop being flexible. Looking at life from this perspective leads to a dark place full of pointy rocks that you constantly step or fall on. Lots to complain about but nothing to live for! I have been here and done that and it is no fun, trust me. Learning to roll with life has so many gifts I can't even list them all here, so just to name a few big ones happiness, joy, better relationships, and happy people want to hang out with happy people.

Do you like the idea of resilience? Challenge yourself to be more flexible about something/someone you feel negatively about and see how it feels. Do you feel better or worse not feeling negatively towards ...?

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335

I always forget I am the shortest person in the room! Thanks, Cindy you are an awesome photographer

I attended a MetroAtlanta Chamber of Commerce meeting last night and Cindy Brown http://cbrownphoto.com/blog/?p=1460  took my picture. I love it, I forget how short I am it is normal for me to look up, I don't evaluate it. What are you doing in your life that is so normal you don't even know you are doing it? Take this opportunity to evaluate behaviors and relationship patterns. I know I can't change looking up and it stopped bothering me years ago. We all can have healthier behaviors and better relationships, so ask yourself what might I do differently today that improve my life? Then try it and see, I promise the view is better when you risk making your life better.
Questions call Greta (404) 259-1335.

I looked in the mirror today, and I am going gray!

Today I saw a lot of gray hairs "yes" I know I am getting older and this is going to be come more frequent. How can we age gracefully and I don't mean physical appearance? When I look at the people aging gracefully in my life here is what I learned and from whom:
1. Keep you mind active- Mom
2. Stretch everyday- Coco the cat
3. Take naps- Zazu the dog
4. Keep a positive attitude- Mom again
5. Keep your loved ones close- Mother in-law
6. Do what you love- Joyce Rennolds

Hope these help you as much as they help me. I would love to read your comments, tell me what you think of aging and how to do it gracefully?

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLCC
(404) 259-1335
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Look who's top dog now!

I love to observe life and how different situations play out. We have three dogs in the house. One dog "Zazu" the mut in the house is the top dog hands down, the other two until recently have been vying for second place for over a year. The Jack Russel "Tito" l had an advantage over the Maltese/poodle "Lulu" with age and muscle. Recently "Tito" decided it would be a good idea to pee in my bedroom, he got in trouble and was a nervous nelly for around two days. This dramatically changed the dog order in the house "Lulu" is now firmly second in command. Lulu decides if "Tito" is allowed on the bed or in a lap. This situation may not last but it is interesting to watch and wonder, who is top dog in my house? If your wondering what I mean let me explain, in your mind do you make your own decision or have you had situations like "Tito" and now all the negative and critical voices in your mind control your decisions instead of you.

Not in command of your own mind or decisions call (404) 29-1335 and ask for Greta

Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLCC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com