Spring is an interesting time because many of us begin either to change or think about changing. I have been out talking with a lot of different types of people and I find it interesting how often we talk ourselves out of changing. I call it the “Yeah, buts”.
The two yeah buts I hear the most are "Yeah, but I don’t have enough time" and "Yeah, but I can’t do that." Have you ever suffered from the yeah, buts? It is common to find reasons not to change because staying where we are is a known situation and changing is not. I have known friends to have the yeah, buts for years. They become a broken record of yeah, buts to justify why they are not moving forward and changing their lives for the better.
Eventually we either tire of making excuses or we become bored with ourselves and our lives. Boredom is a killer: it numbs our emotions, slaughters our sex life, and obliterates good communication with those we love the most. It does not sound like fun, I know. Boredom creeps up on us because we are not honoring ourselves and our need to change and move forward. Change is a natural part of being human. But if we don’t learn to remove the yeah, buts from our lives, we will be ill prepared when change is thrown at us by circumstance and life.
It might be scary to throw out the excuses and take on our fears but at least we will be in control of the direction our lives take. We won’t be bored. We won’t be boring. It is exciting to talk with people following their dreams and putting the yeah, buts behind them.
I challenge you to face one of your own yeah, buts for one week and see how you feel at the end of it. Were you scared? Energized? Excited? Frustrated? Happy? Bored?
Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
blog.CoachingYourDreams.com
(404) 259-1335
Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.
No comments:
Post a Comment