I have been struggling with what to write about today. It could be the weather; it is rainy and cold in May. I decided I was asking myself the wrong question; instead of “What should I write today” the question should be “What do I want to share”. Then it hit me like a flash, I want to talk about asking the right questions of our selves. One of the biggest challenges we face when we are feeling bad and our self esteem is low, are the rotten question we ask of our selves.
When we are down, a standard question is “Why do I feel so down?” Then we look around for a reason or excuse for feeling down so we can justify our mood and stay stuck. When somebody criticizes us or is mad, we may ask ourselves “Why am I such a screw up?” or “What did I do to make them mad?”. Next time ask yourself “What is going on with so and so that they are so upset right now?” or “I wonder why that is a button for them” and “is there something I can do differently that might help us communicate better?” These are just some quick examples at how just changing what we ask ourselves will help us feel better. When we ask the wrong question we end up blaming ourselves or someone else and then we feel badly.
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