It is a beautiful inspiring day here in Tucker, GA there is a light breeze, the sun is shining and the temperature is around 70 degrees. I am sitting on my recently built deck breathing and enjoying the day. My dog Lulu is sitting next to me growling at the neighbors as they work in the yard. I am three hours behind schedule. It is amazing how time goes by so quickly any woman with kids, a job or both knows. I am experimenting this month with scheduling to see if I can bend time (that is have time to do everything I want). My mentor Dr. Duckett says you must have a good schedule to bend time.
Here are the options:
1. Do the big stuff in the morning and then the little stuff in the afternoon
2. Schedule everything but no times attached
3. Schedule everything and have time frames for each event.
After picking which one you like do this:
The first Monday of the month take the whole day to work on your month’s schedule. Then every Monday after spend at least thirty minutes scheduling the week. This kind of scheduling is particularly important to entrepreneurs; it can also be helpful to mothers and anyone women employed who wants to start a business. You just spend a proportional amount of time scheduling i.e. if you only have ten hours a week to work on your business you may not take the whole day to schedule you may take two to three hours at the beginning of the month and then only fifteen minutes every week after that. No matter what you must schedule yourself otherwise you may get things done, but it will be inefficient and you will feel disorganized. As with everything I discuss it takes practice and we are not looking for perfection only permanence.
Right now option three is winning for me because I get a lot more done when I have times actually written down. I know of several people where option one works great as well. Option two seems to leave to much room for disorganization.
If you are tired of feeling disorganized and confused contact me at:
Greta Jaeger, CPLC, LPC
(404) 259-1335
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
blog.coachingyourdreams.com
Monday, May 24, 2010
Friday, May 21, 2010
Asking different question
I have been struggling with what to write about today. It could be the weather; it is rainy and cold in May. I decided I was asking myself the wrong question; instead of “What should I write today” the question should be “What do I want to share”. Then it hit me like a flash, I want to talk about asking the right questions of our selves. One of the biggest challenges we face when we are feeling bad and our self esteem is low, are the rotten question we ask of our selves.
When we are down, a standard question is “Why do I feel so down?” Then we look around for a reason or excuse for feeling down so we can justify our mood and stay stuck. When somebody criticizes us or is mad, we may ask ourselves “Why am I such a screw up?” or “What did I do to make them mad?”. Next time ask yourself “What is going on with so and so that they are so upset right now?” or “I wonder why that is a button for them” and “is there something I can do differently that might help us communicate better?” These are just some quick examples at how just changing what we ask ourselves will help us feel better. When we ask the wrong question we end up blaming ourselves or someone else and then we feel badly.
When we are down, a standard question is “Why do I feel so down?” Then we look around for a reason or excuse for feeling down so we can justify our mood and stay stuck. When somebody criticizes us or is mad, we may ask ourselves “Why am I such a screw up?” or “What did I do to make them mad?”. Next time ask yourself “What is going on with so and so that they are so upset right now?” or “I wonder why that is a button for them” and “is there something I can do differently that might help us communicate better?” These are just some quick examples at how just changing what we ask ourselves will help us feel better. When we ask the wrong question we end up blaming ourselves or someone else and then we feel badly.
Monday, May 17, 2010
Don't forget to be grateful
I spoke with a client today and she reminded me how important gratitude is in life. She was shot several times and suffered major brain damage as a police officer. Imagine she had to learn to walk and talk all over again, wow. When this happened it meant her life would never be the same.
She told me that because of that experience she was lead back to the love of her life, and she is grateful everyday for that. She also still lives in service of others but not as a police officer instead she speaks in support of police officers and their wants and needs, if they become disabled. She is one of the kindest, most considerate and beautiful people I know. She lives in gratitude everyday despite her tragedy or you might say because of it. If you want to know more about her follow this link: http://bit.ly/adtdpU
She told me that because of that experience she was lead back to the love of her life, and she is grateful everyday for that. She also still lives in service of others but not as a police officer instead she speaks in support of police officers and their wants and needs, if they become disabled. She is one of the kindest, most considerate and beautiful people I know. She lives in gratitude everyday despite her tragedy or you might say because of it. If you want to know more about her follow this link: http://bit.ly/adtdpU
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Being Present
How do we stay in the moment, be present, and learn to live for now without forgetting to build towards a future? Why learn to stay present? First can you change the past? NO. Can you take action in the future? NO. The only state of mind we can take action in or change is “NOW”. If we want a better life we can learn from the past and we can plan for the future and get results in the here and now. So now we know the two biggest blocks to living in the present, are the past and future. The emotion that most people experience when concentrating on the past and future is some kind of FEAR. Fear is de-motivating and spirit crushing. The craziest part is we will even learn from other people’s negative experiences in the past as well, to confirm why we should or should not do something to change our lives.
There are many powerful teachers and motivators in our lives fear from past experiences and fear of failure are two negative ones. You must ask your self is this how I want to live? Living with fear stops you from pursuing your passion and purpose in life. One way to conquer fear and live the life we want is stay and live in the now the present. Here are some techniques to try. Find the ones you like that help you stay present and incorporate them in your daily life.
Homework:
Get out of your head and get into your body, take a deep breath and feel your body experience it right now, any aches, pains, the absence of aches or pains, pressure, itchy and feel your emotions in this moments what are they calm, nervous, good, happy, frustrated. Just check out your emotions and notice them don’t do anything about them just be in the emotion. Do this daily for 1 or 2 minutes.
Meditate- jump on-line and pick a meditation or email me and I will send you one specific to what you want to meditate about. Do this daily, time can vary depending on the meditation style that you pick I prefer a more active meditation which is why I use Kundalini yoga meditations which can be any where from three minutes to an hour.
Reframe your thoughts- when you catch yourself thinking about the past, change the statement i.e. “Can you believe that person cut me off and almost made me crash my car” becomes “That person who cut me off must have had something awfully important to do like visit their father on his death bed or they would not be driving so dangerously”. Sounds silly but it works. Practicing compassion in your reframes is important. There will be more on reframing and reprogramming your mind in later blogs.
Greta Jaeger, PLC, LPC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
www.YouCanHaveItAll.WordPress.com
There are many powerful teachers and motivators in our lives fear from past experiences and fear of failure are two negative ones. You must ask your self is this how I want to live? Living with fear stops you from pursuing your passion and purpose in life. One way to conquer fear and live the life we want is stay and live in the now the present. Here are some techniques to try. Find the ones you like that help you stay present and incorporate them in your daily life.
Homework:
Get out of your head and get into your body, take a deep breath and feel your body experience it right now, any aches, pains, the absence of aches or pains, pressure, itchy and feel your emotions in this moments what are they calm, nervous, good, happy, frustrated. Just check out your emotions and notice them don’t do anything about them just be in the emotion. Do this daily for 1 or 2 minutes.
Meditate- jump on-line and pick a meditation or email me and I will send you one specific to what you want to meditate about. Do this daily, time can vary depending on the meditation style that you pick I prefer a more active meditation which is why I use Kundalini yoga meditations which can be any where from three minutes to an hour.
Reframe your thoughts- when you catch yourself thinking about the past, change the statement i.e. “Can you believe that person cut me off and almost made me crash my car” becomes “That person who cut me off must have had something awfully important to do like visit their father on his death bed or they would not be driving so dangerously”. Sounds silly but it works. Practicing compassion in your reframes is important. There will be more on reframing and reprogramming your mind in later blogs.
Greta Jaeger, PLC, LPC
(404) 259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
www.YouCanHaveItAll.WordPress.com
Friday, May 7, 2010
10 ideas for Spring cleaning your mind
1. Let go trying to please everyone
2. Let go thinking you are alone
3. Let go thinking you are always right
4. Breathe
5. Let go the need to be liked by everyone
6. Let go of the past hurts, forgive
7. Stop putting yourself down
8. Practice gratitude daily
9. If you are afraid of doing something, then do it
10. Let go of any negative people in your life
Tired of hearing yourself say “Is this as good as it gets”? Ready to start fresh and clean your house and mind? Call or email to receive your free initial interview:
Greta Jaeger,LPC, CPLC www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
blog.CoachingYourDreams.com
(404) 259-1335
Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my
blog and I will get back to you.
2. Let go thinking you are alone
3. Let go thinking you are always right
4. Breathe
5. Let go the need to be liked by everyone
6. Let go of the past hurts, forgive
7. Stop putting yourself down
8. Practice gratitude daily
9. If you are afraid of doing something, then do it
10. Let go of any negative people in your life
Tired of hearing yourself say “Is this as good as it gets”? Ready to start fresh and clean your house and mind? Call or email to receive your free initial interview:
Greta Jaeger,LPC, CPLC www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
blog.CoachingYourDreams.com
(404) 259-1335
Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my
blog and I will get back to you.
Thursday, May 6, 2010
Do you have a case of the "Yeah, buts"
Spring is an interesting time because many of us begin either to change or think about changing. I have been out talking with a lot of different types of people and I find it interesting how often we talk ourselves out of changing. I call it the “Yeah, buts”.
The two yeah buts I hear the most are "Yeah, but I don’t have enough time" and "Yeah, but I can’t do that." Have you ever suffered from the yeah, buts? It is common to find reasons not to change because staying where we are is a known situation and changing is not. I have known friends to have the yeah, buts for years. They become a broken record of yeah, buts to justify why they are not moving forward and changing their lives for the better.
Eventually we either tire of making excuses or we become bored with ourselves and our lives. Boredom is a killer: it numbs our emotions, slaughters our sex life, and obliterates good communication with those we love the most. It does not sound like fun, I know. Boredom creeps up on us because we are not honoring ourselves and our need to change and move forward. Change is a natural part of being human. But if we don’t learn to remove the yeah, buts from our lives, we will be ill prepared when change is thrown at us by circumstance and life.
It might be scary to throw out the excuses and take on our fears but at least we will be in control of the direction our lives take. We won’t be bored. We won’t be boring. It is exciting to talk with people following their dreams and putting the yeah, buts behind them.
I challenge you to face one of your own yeah, buts for one week and see how you feel at the end of it. Were you scared? Energized? Excited? Frustrated? Happy? Bored?
Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
blog.CoachingYourDreams.com
(404) 259-1335
Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.
The two yeah buts I hear the most are "Yeah, but I don’t have enough time" and "Yeah, but I can’t do that." Have you ever suffered from the yeah, buts? It is common to find reasons not to change because staying where we are is a known situation and changing is not. I have known friends to have the yeah, buts for years. They become a broken record of yeah, buts to justify why they are not moving forward and changing their lives for the better.
Eventually we either tire of making excuses or we become bored with ourselves and our lives. Boredom is a killer: it numbs our emotions, slaughters our sex life, and obliterates good communication with those we love the most. It does not sound like fun, I know. Boredom creeps up on us because we are not honoring ourselves and our need to change and move forward. Change is a natural part of being human. But if we don’t learn to remove the yeah, buts from our lives, we will be ill prepared when change is thrown at us by circumstance and life.
It might be scary to throw out the excuses and take on our fears but at least we will be in control of the direction our lives take. We won’t be bored. We won’t be boring. It is exciting to talk with people following their dreams and putting the yeah, buts behind them.
I challenge you to face one of your own yeah, buts for one week and see how you feel at the end of it. Were you scared? Energized? Excited? Frustrated? Happy? Bored?
Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
blog.CoachingYourDreams.com
(404) 259-1335
Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Disciple and Positive thinking
There are several books presently sitting on my old mahogany lawyer’s desk, many of which are about speaking and inspiring others. There is one, in particular, though, that I’d like to mention, titled “Peace, which is full of quotes by Mahatma Ghandi. Now, if there was ever a man that had the ability to control his mind, it was Ghandi. In the name of “Peace”, he could go for long periods of time without eating. In fact, he ran an entire peace movement against a violent government, based on “love”, instead of anger, and won. If there ever was an accidental politician, it was him.
What did Ghandi have that we don’t have… or don’t have yet? How was he able to face insurmountable odds so fearlessly and lovingly? Perhaps it was a combination of a few of his character traits, such as his discipline, persistence, compassion, drive, focus, along with his inspiring ways. Today, though, I’d like to turn your attention to discipline.
Unfortunately, discipline is not easily found in the American culture. The most obvious places to look are in the areas of sports and business. If we consider sports celebrities for a moment, though, they may excel at their sport, but many often get caught up in drugs, alcohol, and abusive or bad marriages. They may be successful in their careers, but they lack that same success and discipline in their personal lives. I believe this may be a result of our cultural belief that if you are disciplined, then you can’t possibly have any fun, and perhaps you’ll even tend to be a bit militaristic.
Wall Street is another place where there has been no discipline. If the people running these companies had controlled their greed, they would still be making money. Perhaps they wouldn’t make it as quickly or make as much, but it would not have disappeared instantly as it did at the beginning of our current recession.
If we want to successfully throw off our negative thinking, then we have to learn and choose some skills that will help us in this process. We then need to use discipline when practicing them. If you read my last blog, I informed you of two skills that will significantly reduce your negative thinking. If you are disciplined in your approach and incorporate these techniques into your daily life, you’re certain to find success. Remember… practice, practice, practice and more practice makes permanent.
Here is a suggestion that can help you make discipline a habit in your life:
First - Pick a skill you want to learn. In this example, we will use catching your negative thoughts and reframing them.
Second - Write down any negative thoughts that you know you have consistently, and then write a positive reframe.
Third - Three times a day, practice a positive reframe with all of the negative thoughts you wrote down.
Fourth - During your day, if and when you catch a negative thought or story playing in your mind, take a deep breath and positively reframe it, and/or think about how you can create an action around that negative thought.
If you are diligent and perform this process for the next thirty days, it will start to become a habit. If you are disciplined and continue on for another month or two, it will become very natural for you to reframe your negative thoughts.
If you are tired of your negative thoughts and struggling to get out of the rut you are in email or call Greta Jaeger she is a master at reframing and she will accelerate your learning process. You will move from stuck to pursue your dreams call or email now.
Greta Jaeger, LPC, PCLC
404-259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
www.blog.CoachingYourDreams.com
Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.
What did Ghandi have that we don’t have… or don’t have yet? How was he able to face insurmountable odds so fearlessly and lovingly? Perhaps it was a combination of a few of his character traits, such as his discipline, persistence, compassion, drive, focus, along with his inspiring ways. Today, though, I’d like to turn your attention to discipline.
Unfortunately, discipline is not easily found in the American culture. The most obvious places to look are in the areas of sports and business. If we consider sports celebrities for a moment, though, they may excel at their sport, but many often get caught up in drugs, alcohol, and abusive or bad marriages. They may be successful in their careers, but they lack that same success and discipline in their personal lives. I believe this may be a result of our cultural belief that if you are disciplined, then you can’t possibly have any fun, and perhaps you’ll even tend to be a bit militaristic.
Wall Street is another place where there has been no discipline. If the people running these companies had controlled their greed, they would still be making money. Perhaps they wouldn’t make it as quickly or make as much, but it would not have disappeared instantly as it did at the beginning of our current recession.
If we want to successfully throw off our negative thinking, then we have to learn and choose some skills that will help us in this process. We then need to use discipline when practicing them. If you read my last blog, I informed you of two skills that will significantly reduce your negative thinking. If you are disciplined in your approach and incorporate these techniques into your daily life, you’re certain to find success. Remember… practice, practice, practice and more practice makes permanent.
Here is a suggestion that can help you make discipline a habit in your life:
First - Pick a skill you want to learn. In this example, we will use catching your negative thoughts and reframing them.
Second - Write down any negative thoughts that you know you have consistently, and then write a positive reframe.
Third - Three times a day, practice a positive reframe with all of the negative thoughts you wrote down.
Fourth - During your day, if and when you catch a negative thought or story playing in your mind, take a deep breath and positively reframe it, and/or think about how you can create an action around that negative thought.
If you are diligent and perform this process for the next thirty days, it will start to become a habit. If you are disciplined and continue on for another month or two, it will become very natural for you to reframe your negative thoughts.
If you are tired of your negative thoughts and struggling to get out of the rut you are in email or call Greta Jaeger she is a master at reframing and she will accelerate your learning process. You will move from stuck to pursue your dreams call or email now.
Greta Jaeger, LPC, PCLC
404-259-1335
www.CoachingYourDreams.com
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
www.blog.CoachingYourDreams.com
Please send any questions to:
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
Please put in the subject line “Question for Coach Greta” or leave a comment on my blog and I will get back to you.
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