our relationships. The crazy thing is fear is something we have made up in our own minds most of the time. It is the stories we tell our selves. Let me give you an example I have a client who is working hard on this exact thing, because of her tendency to shut friends out after uncomfortable interaction with them. About a month ago one of her friends said something that came across as critical to my client but when she repeated it to me I could see many different ways to interpret the statement. After discussing several versions she acknowledge that without asking she actually did not know if her friend intended it the way she took it. Jumping to conclusions is easy and we think it protects us but in the end all it does is isolate us and make us feel as though we can not trust anyone. I always encourage my clients to pick the story that leaves them feeling good instead of bad or stand up and ask what the person meant instead of assuming.
Fear of loosing our job, getting a new job, starting a new relationship, telling our partners exactly how we feel and on and on and on, we could list more fears but the result is the same it stops us from taking risks. Stop telling your self the negative stories and start telling your self the good stories so you step into your future now. Coaching can be a solution to overcoming your fears. When we work together you will learn to move through your fear and successfully accomplish the goals you have set for yourself!
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