Yes, of course there is a science. It is not a pill or a quick fix, however. Lasting happiness takes times and effort just like anything in life worth working towards. We are conditioned to believe setting and achieving goals is the way to get happy. We were mislead, the intention was to help but instead it confused us. Working towards goals can help us with learning to be happy but it is not the answer to sustained "Happiness".
The next question what brings sustained happiness? We all know that money and things is not the answer so what is the answer. I had a mentor one time who loved to say "Money can't buy happiness, but it sure does make it easier." Ok, so I don't buy this either, although I think he really meant if you are not struggling to feed and house yourself it is easier to be happy. He was only partially correct and this could be a long blog if I went in depth, so I am going to keep it short. It can be easier to have a good attitude if we are not struggling for food and water and a dry place to sleep. However, I have met homeless people with amazing attitudes about life and their purpose in life. It is not necessary to always know where our next meal is coming from to have a great attitude about life.
Some of you have already figured out one of the keys is attitude. Attitude can be trained just like we were trained to talk and walk, we can learn a better attitude. A part of having a great attitude is learning to train our perception as well instead of letting our brain have control; we must control our brain, our thoughts. These are all parts of the science of sustained "Happiness" and you can see why I say it takes time and training.
If you think that my ideas are wrong be scientific and test them practice having a good attitude one day and a bad attitude the next see which day ends with you feeling good. You can do the same with your perception of things that happen to you. If you want to know more about the science of getting "Happy" contact me at:
Greta Jaeger, LPC, PLCC
(404) 259-1335
greta@coachingyourdreams.com
www.CoachingYourDream.com
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