How to move through Uncomfortable Emotions faster!

Call them what you want: negative emotions, uncomfortable emotions, emotions that suck, and whatever else you want to say about them. Unless we have become self actualized, we still have them. Our ability to handle negative emotions varies greatly and is often impacted by our environment i.e. not sleeping well, feeling grief or a sucky job. It is easy to want to get rid of the emotion or the situation so you can feel better. In some cases we want to understand why we are feeling bad and the "why" is not readily apparent.
What to do when good emotions go bad! Stop asking "why" for starters. This question can easily be answered with the wrong information. An example is when someone is uncomfortable about their financial situation but it is easier to feel like they are anxious about whether their new boyfriend/girlfriend really likes them. Let go of the need to know why and take a deep breath and do step number two. Step number two is allowing the feeling without fighting. Yes, I mean just experience the emotion no questions asked. If you want to cry, then cry; if you feel anxious, then feel anxious. Step three, acknowledge that these feeling are temporary!
Any of these steps can help but the combination is best. If you want to learn how to let negative emotions pass, try it out and see what happens. If you are struggling with on going challenging emotions you may be better off with more support such as through a life coach or therapist. Give me a call if you would like more information about life coaching or therapy at (404) 259-1335.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
www.CoachingYourDreams.com

What to do when you are dealing with a top Ten Stressor!

If you read my blog you already know the first step to manage a big stressor(i.e. moving, divorce, grief) please take care of yourself as well, not last. This is a classic mistake many people make taking care of everyone else first, which of course puts us last. Yes, please make the important people in your life as comfortable as you can and also make yourself as comfortable as possible. This can look like a deep breath or two, maybe a hot bath, dinner out with the girls, football out with the boys, whatever will help you laugh, cry, smile, feel comfortable and gives you an opportunity to take a break from the crisis.
Step two, do what you can to experience your emotions whether they are sad, mad, frustrated, upset, etc. Let them come out when you feel them. When we censor our emotions under stress they have a tendency to come out as anger towards those closest to us. 
Step three, don't spend time questioning yourself. Make the best decision you can considering the circumstances and then go with it. This is not the time to think decisions are good or bad; they are just good, better and best.
Step four remind yourself that the situation or emotion is temporary and you will get through it.
Step five call a therapist or life coach if none of this works.

Greta Jaeger, LPC, CPLC
(404) 259-1335
greta@CoachingYourDreams.com
www.CoachingYourDreams.com